parenting

Creativity is the Key to Future Success

It may not be long before we are traveling like the Jetsons. If one is old enough to remember the cartoon, it was the mother who had the first automatic vacuum. It took 50 years for scientists to discover how to make it a reality. t’s called the Roomba. Surprising enough, it has been cartoonists

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Blaming Stunts Growth

There is a saying, “When you point a finger at someone else to blame them for what happened, you have three fingers pointing back at yourself.” When I was young and would complain about something a friend said or did to me, my mother would always reply with, “What part did you play in it.”

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Stop Nagging Start – Get Children Real About Time

Nagging happens because we nag. One challenge is how to stop the nagging when children have no concept of time. If they don’t understand what a minute feels like, then how can they honor a five minute warning. To stop the nagging, we need to take the first two steps:We need to say what we

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Three FREE Live Events For Subscribers

MONDAY: The Power of the Question and How to Overcome the Fear of Asking Them 11am pst. Click this link to join my Victoria’s Challenge Group and join the group so you can log on early so you don’t miss anything. Have you paper and pencil ready. Monday’s FREE will focus on the power of

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Kill Failure With Word Choice

We all want our children to be successful. They may have the intelligence, mindset, and potential to be successful, but something seems to get in their way. Over the years, I have had children describe themselves in different ways. Some children use the following words to describe themselves: artistic, funny, fun, serious, smart, and capable.

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Prepare for the Fall With a Day at the Beach

Today I decided to take myself to the beach. I find the effect of the ocean releases creativity. So with a journal in hand, I walked down the cliff to the majestic Crystal Cove in California. The weather was perfect. There weren’t many people, so it provided the feel of a somewhat private beach. As

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Fear of Asking Questions in a Question

I am receiving a large number of questions, and because they can apply to many people, I wanted to share the answers. Today’s Question “Why does answering questions in an online classroom give me more anxiety than answering questions in a physical classroom?” This is a great question, because the question is the key to

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Converting Blamers and Shamers to Thrivers

I have been asked many times what is my secret to helping children overcome learning obstacles and grow into thrivers.  The success comes when the children understand they can’t blame anyone or anything for what they are dealing with. They learn how to look at a challenge and see how they can take responsibility for

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A Poem for Our Time

I wrote the following poem about 26 years ago with my mother, that expressed the challenges we were having with children being too dependent on their parents to help them with homework.  I sit at this paper and I stare and I think. This homework and these projects have me right on the brink! The

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About Victoria

Victoria is an educational consultant, nationally recognized speaker. Her over 50 years in education has been focused on developing resilient self-reliant self-advocates who know how to tap into their innate ability to independently solve challenges.