self-advocacy

Question of the Day: I’m really stressed with online middle school. I get way too much homework, teachers don’t teach us, and it’s above my ability. How can I deal with it and get my work done in time?

I receive questions like this from middle and high schoolers, as well as college students. Frankly it has come up too many times in my practice the last year. These students are not alone, yet they think they are. Why is performance waining? I can speak to this myself. I was able to make it

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Teach Empathy

I have never experienced a more stressful time in our country and for teachers specifically in my 50 years in the classroom and as a parent. The media won’t let us stop worrying about one thing or another. Teachers aim to provide a nurturing safe space for their students so they can feel some relief

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Unlock Beliefs to Help Children Overcome Obstacles

“Why does my daughter beat herself up because her twin’s talent is in math and he can do it easily while she struggles. He constantly corrects her?” asked a mother of gifted children. To answer this questions we need to do the following: Examine the power of beliefs formed at an early age. Examine our

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ADD is a Misused Label

Labeling children can often be more destructive than helpful, and can prevent us from discovering the real reason behind the behaviors being manifested. I have heard a fourth grader I am homeschooling in math and language referred to as being ADD. His supervising teacher said, “I’m sure you already have noticed signs of ADD.” I

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A Procrastinator’s Secret

Working with procrastinators for over 48 years has been very telling. Some procrastinators are simply over scheduled and lack time-management strategies. A good number of procrastinators put off hard things. They will avoid those tasks that take more mental energy, while others hold deeply rooted secrets that interfere with the ability to complete tasks on

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Children’s Mistakes Bring Big Rewards: Engagement

Kids say the darnedest things. My friend’s granddaughter was excited about her first day in first grade. We’ll call her Suzy for story telling purposes. The teacher was sweet and Suzy loved her immediately. That’s a good thing for a parent who is leaving her child in the care of someone for the first time.

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The Aftermath of Covid on Line Learning: RELIEVE YOURSELF OF THE NIGHTLY DRAMA ASSOCIATED WITH HOMEWORK!

Working with children who have been on-line for a year and watching them transition into the regular classroom, I have witnessed some new challenges for parents. During Covid on-line instruction, parents were pulled into the learning environment more than ever before. Children who were somewhat independent prior to on-line are now demonstrating increased dependence on

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Children’s Beliefs Impact Performance

If asked, will your child say they are terrible at math or good at math? Would they say they are a good student or a bad student? Do the words artistic, athletic, or creative show up on their list of descriptives about themselves? Or are meth challenged, poor reader, or is clumsy on their list?

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Fear of Asking Questions in a Question

I am receiving a large number of questions, and because they can apply to many people, I wanted to share the answers. Today’s Question “Why does answering questions in an online classroom give me more anxiety than answering questions in a physical classroom?” This is a great question, because the question is the key to

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About Victoria

Victoria is an educational consultant, nationally recognized speaker. Her over 50 years in education has been focused on developing resilient self-reliant self-advocates who know how to tap into their innate ability to independently solve challenges.

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